(Online Dating Industry Journal) Rosemary Desmond, of the AAP news service, has written an article about research indicating the danger and ease of which women fall for witty lines online.
From the article:
"Internet daters beware - witty emails don't lead to love, an Australian researcher says.
Too many people, particularly women, who go online in search of relationships fall for a clever line, said Queensland University of Technology (QUT) relationships psychologist Matthew Bambling.
They quickly formed emotional attachments to unsuitable people they had not even met in real life..."
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Joe's Comments
It's easy to form attachments online before you meet someone when you've been communicating with them for awhile. This researcher recommends only a couple of emails before you meet for coffee to determine compatibility. It kind of flies in the face of what many online daters practice - getting to know someone in-depth online before meeting. There seems to be pros and cons to both, but as this article points out, waiting longer only sets you up for a bigger disappointment. Not everyone I know would agree with that.
It's almost impossible to really get to know someone soley through email communication. I'll do maybe 5 or 6 emails back and forth to get a feel for the person's general personality and then quickly try to set up a meet. In my experience, meeting someone in person after a few months of chatting online is almost always weird and disappointing.
Posted by: Jay Cataldo | May 22, 2008 at 12:59 PM
If you are trying to find a relationship on a dating site you should:
1. spend some days corresponding by e-mail
2. Talk on the phone. Never give out your phone number to a stranger! May be use a prepaid cellular phone.
3. If you still like the person try to find out as much as you can about him or her before going on a real life date
4. Go on a real life date.
5. Fall completely in love :-)
6. Marry and be happy the res tof your life :-)
That's the way online dating should work.
Posted by: ronald | May 25, 2008 at 02:21 PM
I beleave dating site are a good way for shy people trying to meet and also itis good for anyone. Good relationships can be forged online but you do need to make sure that you corespond and make sure you do have simialr intrests.
Finaly when you do go to meet the person take a friend with you just for abit of safety because at the end of the day to do not know that this person is who they say they are
Posted by: Jim Holdorn | June 04, 2008 at 09:37 AM
Definitley true, you can't get to know someone purely by email. I like to build a kind of 'history' with conversation over email.
Get a running joke going or something.
Then try to organise a phone call. I'm not the most confident person in the world, but this helps. Following on from a phone conversation organise a date... Again, I find it difficult to chat and get self concsious easily, so building a bit of a foundation first, helps alot!
Posted by: Australian Online Dating | June 19, 2008 at 07:01 AM